You are not the blogs you read.

You are not the comments you make.

You are not your playlist.

You are not your facebook status.

You are not your parents.

You are not your religion.

You are not your society.

You are not the clothes you wear.

You are not the brand you love.

You are not your desktop wallpaper.

You are not your friends.

You are not the money you have.

You are not your spouse.

You are not the degrees you have.

You are not the books you own.

You are not your pets.

You are not your car.

You are not the things you buy.

You are not the things you create.

You are not your relationships.

You are… just you.

So stop pretending and wasting your life to get things that define your illusionary self.

Remember that line from Fight Club -  “You are not your job. You are not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the shoes you wear. You are not the contents of your wallet.”

This post is inspired from that.

Let me explain…

By pretending that you are your job, you are making your self-worth based on the job. But does your job define you as a person? If your answer is Yes then its not entirely your fault; we have been raised that way. Think for a moment and ask yourself how many things or how many decisions you have made thinking that those things or decisions would define you? And do they really define you?

Why would you want to attach your identity to any of those things? Because by doing that, you are losing yourself, bit by bit. When you let these things define yourself, you are limiting your possibilities. You begin to analyse everything in the same way. You would assume that a CEO is better than a watchman, which might not really be true. Not only that, by attaching your identity to things you are putting yourself at a considerable risk. If you lose your job, your possessions, you lose yourself! You break down, shattered.

Life’s purpose is not to earn as money as possible or have the coolest job. It is something much more. If you understand that, then only will you be able to value people and relationships properly. You can then find your true purpose in life and take your best shot at it.

Don’t let things define you. You will be able to handle setbacks in a better way if they do not knock out your sense of self-worth.

Please ask questions in the comments and remember -

You are just… you.